I don't think that is normal. I feel bad that they have to do that,but If I were in their shoes I would probably do the same thing. That's just too bad they shouldn't have to do that.
I do not agree with the practices of disguising daughters as sons, and I find it upsetting that in Afghan it is better for one to give birth to a son. Although, if disguising daughters as sons inorder for them to get a better education, etc. then I would do the same as a Mother, but I would also tell my daughter what was going on so that when she grows up and gets married she is not shocked by the social change.
My only question would be to the mothers of these children will they cast the child out if they become Gay or Lesbians? I guess my problem would be if your teaching a child one thing in the years of "stages of self" the child will continue to live the way that they learn from their parents. And when the mother said that their marriages are arranged it made me in a way laugh because how do you expect her to love and marry a man and your raising her as a son? yes, i know that know matter how you dress, no matter how you live your life,or what society thinks your are your still a woman. but what do you really expect from her? She only has Two choices as of now. To Live life as a gay man or live her life as a lesbian woman.
Yes--it's complicated. In the best situation, she will identify as a "Tom boy," and "grow out of it." If she truly identifies as male, then she will still have to get married, because that's really the only choice for all female.
I don't think that is normal. I feel bad that they have to do that,but If I were in their shoes I would probably do the same thing. That's just too bad they shouldn't have to do that.
ReplyDeleteI do not agree with the practices of disguising daughters as sons, and I find it upsetting that in Afghan it is better for one to give birth to a son. Although, if disguising daughters as sons inorder for them to get a better education, etc. then I would do the same as a Mother, but I would also tell my daughter what was going on so that when she grows up and gets married she is not shocked by the social change.
ReplyDeleteThe first comment is from Randi Huey.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the interesting comments.
ReplyDeleteMy only question would be to the mothers of these children will they cast the child out if they become Gay or Lesbians? I guess my problem would be if your teaching a child one thing in the years of "stages of self" the child will continue to live the way that they learn from their parents. And when the mother said that their marriages are arranged it made me in a way laugh because how do you expect her to love and marry a man and your raising her as a son? yes, i know that know matter how you dress, no matter how you live your life,or what society thinks your are your still a woman. but what do you really expect from her? She only has Two choices as of now. To Live life as a gay man or live her life as a lesbian woman.
ReplyDeleteYes--it's complicated. In the best situation, she will identify as a "Tom boy," and "grow out of it." If she truly identifies as male, then she will still have to get married, because that's really the only choice for all female.
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