I do believe wholeheartedly that women’s recent empowerment in the work force has created much hindrance to our relationships with men. It is easier for a man to pursue a woman he believes is totally feminine and has the potential to be solely submissive because they feel it would be a simpler way to gain a woman’s heart and attention. While this is true in some ways, I do not believe that men should count out women that are successful because they can defiantly add a new dynamic and level in the relationship.
This generation is changing I would initially agree that the depiction of Sex and the City is the correct for some men that are 30 or 40 years old and established in their career, but this is not the case for most of the young adults today.
It usually takes significant events to change stereotypical beliefs whether it is about race, religion or sex. Let’s examine three events that are changing the way young men think 1. Most young adult males have grown up in homes where their mother held down some type of job and are already comfortable with the idea of working together with their wife in order to provide a living for their family. 2. Today, young people face an economy that has slowed down and the dollar losing its value in the international markets. Most young adults will leave college with a significant loan to pay back. Many of the adults today do not have pension plans and therefore the days of retiring at 55-60 years old, as our grandfathers did are probably over for most. With the ability to draw social security benefits raising to 67 years of age and possibly continue to climb still, this means less people retiring and less job opportunities for college graduates. Now educated men are looking to marry a professional woman that they can work together with in order to provide the needs for their family. It doesn’t matter as much on who pays for something, but that the bill gets paid and the family can have the things they need and some of the things they desire. 3. There are more TV programs and reality shows that portray women as leaders in the work place and also in leadership roles in the home. We set in classrooms discussing women’s issues and contemplating their needs, thus today’s young males are going to be able to grasp different roles in the work place and home better than any generation before. The more we see and discuss something the easier it is to accept.
There will always be those individuals that hold onto stereotype behaviors, but romance and the role it plays in the relationship should be discussed by the couple and each one should voice their needs as they would the roles that each are comfortable with in the home. Any young man comfortable with his masculinity is going to not take into consideration what job their wife has when it comes to the romance in their relationship. Everyone is different, but with effective communication they can have a healthy relationship with the romance they both need no matter what each other’s professional status is.
I really think that men are getting use to the fact that an increasing amount of women are pursuing more professional careers. I personally want a wife who is going to be independent and I wouldn't mind at all if she made more money then me. I had an ex-girlfriend who was pre-pharmacy at Ohio State University and I thought it was awesome. I couldn't have been more proud of her. I think my generation understands the possibility that their wife may make more money then their husband.
I do believe wholeheartedly that women’s recent empowerment in the work force has created much hindrance to our relationships with men. It is easier for a man to pursue a woman he believes is totally feminine and has the potential to be solely submissive because they feel it would be a simpler way to gain a woman’s heart and attention. While this is true in some ways, I do not believe that men should count out women that are successful because they can defiantly add a new dynamic and level in the relationship.
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Does a man still feel like a "man" if his wife is professional?
ReplyDeleteThis generation is changing
ReplyDeleteI would initially agree that the depiction of Sex and the City is the correct for some men that are 30 or 40 years old and established in their career, but this is not the case for most of the young adults today.
It usually takes significant events to change stereotypical beliefs whether it is about race, religion or sex.
Let’s examine three events that are changing the way young men think
1. Most young adult males have grown up in homes where their mother held down some type of job and are already comfortable with the idea of working together with their wife in order to provide a living for their family.
2. Today, young people face an economy that has slowed down and the dollar losing its value in the international markets. Most young adults will leave college with a significant loan to pay back. Many of the adults today do not have pension plans and therefore the days of retiring at 55-60 years old, as our grandfathers did are probably over for most. With the ability to draw social security benefits raising to 67 years of age and possibly continue to climb still, this means less people retiring and less job opportunities for college graduates. Now educated men are looking to marry a professional woman that they can work together with in order to provide the needs for their family. It doesn’t matter as much on who pays for something, but that the bill gets paid and the family can have the things they need and some of the things they desire.
3. There are more TV programs and reality shows that portray women as leaders in the work place and also in leadership roles in the home. We set in classrooms discussing women’s issues and contemplating their needs, thus today’s young males are going to be able to grasp different roles in the work place and home better than any generation before. The more we see and discuss something the easier it is to accept.
There will always be those individuals that hold onto stereotype behaviors, but romance and the role it plays in the relationship should be discussed by the couple and each one should voice their needs as they would the roles that each are comfortable with in the home. Any young man comfortable with his masculinity is going to not take into consideration what job their wife has when it comes to the romance in their relationship. Everyone is different, but with effective communication they can have a healthy relationship with the romance they both need no matter what each other’s professional status is.
Zach Wiedeman
I really think that men are getting use to the fact that an increasing amount of women are pursuing more professional careers. I personally want a wife who is going to be independent and I wouldn't mind at all if she made more money then me. I had an ex-girlfriend who was pre-pharmacy at Ohio State University and I thought it was awesome. I couldn't have been more proud of her. I think my generation understands the possibility that their wife may make more money then their husband.
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